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"I have vulvodynia, so I feel a lot of fear and pain inserting the egg. Do you have any advice?"
We hear you that there can be a reaction of fear after experiencing something like vulvodynia or any other type of pain in your pussy.
When the pussy is in an active flare-up, infection, or reaction, there is a low-grade distress in the body that can present as if we’re in a constant threat response.
When we’re in that hyper or hypo vigilance, our bodies can go into a chronic state of fight or flight. When this happens we usually respond by creating even more tension in the body by clenching, or worrying, or bracing for an experience we are imagining in our heads. We can then stop ourselves from practicing because the fear and tension is so great.
We invite you to leave the idea of inserting the egg.
You can practice without the egg inside the body as you don’t have to insert anything until pussy is ready.
You can choose.
Begin to have a deep conversation with your pussy around insertion - how does pussy feel about this? How does pussy feel about orgasm? What story is your body/pussy holding around pain, tightness, and constriction?
Invite pleasure that doesn’t involve pussy touch, such as dancing, or shaking, or writing a love letter to your pussy. Practice grounding - do as much as your body feels called to do.
You can also do the practices energetically by holding the egg over your womb space rather than inserting it into your body.
Slow down, take your time, hold yourself in a deep presence and listen to your body. Make a commitment to pussy telling her: “I’m ready to listen to what you need and to hear how you need to feel supported.”